Monday, July 2, 2012

Cherish Your Parents & Love Your Children

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Pope John Paul II once said “As the family goes, so goes the nation and so goes the whole world in which we live.”  These words could never be truer than they are now, in the age in which we live.  Though times change, no one can deny that out of all the things that provide us joy, comfort and hope, nothing comes as close than being blessed with a beautiful family.  Being a part of a caring household, with its own bonds of trust, appreciation, love and solidarity are what form and maintain dynamic individuals, who in turn, positively influence and shape the destiny of a city, region and country.  For friends may come and go, but at the end of the day it’s only ones own family whom they can rely on to stand beside them through thick and thin.  Looking at this more closely from the perspective of a nuclear family, you’d find that parents and children each have their roles to play in creating a solid family structure.  But in order to do so, they each need to be responsible and care for one another.  There lies the crux of my discourse. 

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Looking at ourselves, firstly as children, most of us can say that our parents, despite the adversity and trying situations that were encountered, never failed to give us their best and teach us the right lessons, while they also continued learning this thing called “life.” Their experience, maturity and wisdom had and will always continue to serve us well provided we heed their advice and counsel as often as possible. For the love they extended to us is far more precious than what we sometimes care to acknowledge.  Though family life can at times never be easy, we as their children still need to stop to introspect and realize that they’ve done a lot more for us than what we may remember or even be aware of.  Yet, in spite of their love and care, I have seen countless scenarios where many parents have had to endure rather “impolite behavior” from their children.  The reasons behind this I have often notice trace themselves to a few key areas such as “Our parents don’t seem to understand us or respect our individuality” or “It’s a changed world. Society and our work responsibilities require more of our time, which they just don’t seem to understand” or “Our parents don’t care about our future so much as they care about their own reputation or happiness.” However, no matter what the reason may be, we should remember that being a  parent is not an easy job and is one that requires a great deal of strength emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually, so that, we their children rise higher and shine brighter in life.  So please try and make it a point to give your parents more of your time, help, love and care as they well deserve it. 

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In turn, it would serve some parents well, to reciprocate in a similar fashion towards their children.  By this I refer to the incorrect practice of the “Parent’s Favorite Child”. How any parent can choose a favorite from amongst their children, whether they have 2, 4, 6, 8 etc. is just beyond me. Yes there are some children who are brilliant academically from early on, who look beautiful, are well behaved or are high achievers in various fields, but loving only them and neglecting the rest is just downright evil. Another case in point is where the children of the first (divorced) spouse are loved less than the children of the new spouse, by the parent concerned. Sidelining their other own children makes those little ones more hurt and bitter. Here, someone might argue that the least favorite children behave badly or are not as sharp as their favorite, which justifies their child choice.  I would counter that and say that if their other children behave badly it is only because of the parent’s own carelessness. They have no one but themselves to blame.

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I have a deep sense of gratitude and praise for my parents as they never once played favorites between my sister and me. We were always treated and loved as equals by them.  Plus, many friends and people I know can say the same thing about their parents as well. Hence, I’d like to conclude by saying that although we may feel that we are strong, bold and brilliant in our own way, it would serve us well to ensure that we always love, support and care for our families.  Whether you are a child or a parent, always remember that many of the greatest and happiest memories you’ll ever have in your life will be because of your own family.  Hence, it’s for no reason that the popular saying goes “Home is where the Heart is!” God Bless you all!  Next Take please!

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